Endocannabinoid system and How it Works

 

The endocannabinoid system is perhaps the most important system involved in establishing and maintaining human health. The ECS is involved in regulating a variety of physiological and cognitive processes including fertility, appetite, pain-sensation, mood, and memory. With its complex actions in our immune system, nervous system, and all of the body’s organs, the endocannabinoid system is literally a bridge between the body and mind. By understanding this system, we begin to see a mechanism that explains how states of consciousness can promote health or disease.

Found on the surface of your cells, cannabinoid receptors are present throughout the body and “listen” to the environment around each cell. Information on current conditions is transmitted to the cells by cannabinoid receptors, and therefore they jump-start the proper cellular response if necessary. Properly functioning receptors create homeostasis in the body’s cells to keep you healthy and operating at your peak. The most-studied receptors are CB1, found mainly in the nervous system, and CB2, which occur in organs like the stomach, heart, and liver.

  • Present in all humans, vertebrates, and many invertebrates
  • Consists of CB1 & CB2 receptors
  • Receptors exist throughout the body in the brain, digestive system, lymphatic system, nervous system, etc.
  • Taught in only 13% of medical, nursing & pharmacy programs
  • Responsible for homeostasis; regulation of breath, inflammation, immune response, mood, pain, GI motility, neuroprotection, hormone balance, circadian rhythms, blood pressure, tumor surveillance, and reproduction.
  • Can be activated by exercise, e.g. “runner’s high”, or during osteopathic manipulation and acupuncture

Hot Apple Dumplings – DIABETIC Friendly

HOT APPLE DUMPLINGS ~ DIABETIC FRIENDLY

 

Ingredients:
6 apples of choice
12 teaspoons butter or margarine (light)
1/2 cup diabetic splenda
6 ounces diet 7 up
2 tsp ground cinnamon
9×13 inch baking dish

Directions:
Peel core and halve apples
place 1 tsp of butter or margarine in the hollow area of apple
Place apple right side up in dish and set aside

Pour 7 up over apples as evenly as possible

In bowl combine splenda and cinnamon and mix very well.
Sprinkle cinnamon mixture evenly over apples

Cover apples with your choice:
Pillsbury Biscuits (regular size)
Bisquick Biscuits Mix rolled out like pastry
Your own pastry cover

Bake in oven for 30 – 45 minutes ( do not overbake)

Let sit 5 minutes before serving

Spoon sauce over dumpling
Serve topped with ice cream or your favorite. Or by itself

Loaded Cheesy Potato and Chicken Casserole

If you are looking for a recipe that will appeal to your whole family’s taste buds this recipe
has it all! Cheesy potatoes, Chicken and Bacon! My family begs me to make this at least
once a week and I bet yours will too. You can’t go wrong with this Loaded Cheesy Potato
and Chicken Casserole.

Loaded Cheesy Potato and Chicken Casserole

Ingredients:
2 pounds boneless chicken breasts, cubed (1″)
8-10 medium potatoes, cut in 1/2″ cubes
1/3 cup olive oil
1 1/2 tsp salt
1 Tbsp. black pepper
1 Tbsp. paprika
2 Tbsp. garlic powder
6 Tbsp. hot sauce

Topping:
2 cups fiesta blend cheese
1 cup crumbled bacon
1 cup diced green onion

 

Preheat oven to 500 degrees. Spray a 9X13″ baking dish with cooking spray.

In a large bowl mix together the olive oil, salt, pepper, paprika, garlic powder and hot sauce. Add the cubed potatoes and stir to coat.

Carefully scoop the potatoes into the prepared baking dish, leaving behind as much of the olive oil/hot sauce mixture as possible.

Bake the potatoes for 45-50 minutes, stirring every 10-15 minutes, until cooked through and crispy and browned on the outside. 

While the potatoes are cooking, add the cubed chicken to the bowl with the left over olive oil/hot sauce mixture and stir to coat. Once the potatoes are fully cooked, remove from the oven and lower the oven temperature to 400 degrees.

Top the cooked potatoes with the raw marinated chicken. In a bowl ix together the cheese, bacon and green onion and top the raw chicken with the cheese mixture. Return the casserole to the oven and bake for 15 minutes or until chicken is cooked through and the topping is bubbly delicious

 

Easy Cheese Bread

Easy Cheese Bread
 
what you need is:
1 3/4 c flour
1 ts sugar
2 1/2 tsp baking powder
3/4 tsp salt
1 1/2 c cheese plus 1/2 c for the top
1 egg
1 c milk
1/3 c oil
1/2 tsp garlic powder
1/2 tsp italian seasoning
Pre heat oven to 375
In a large bowl, mix flour, sugar, baking powder, salt cheese and spices. Add egg, oil and milk. Mix well. Pour dough into a well greased loaf pan sprinkle with 1/2 cup of cheese and bake for about 35 min or till done.
~Enjoy~

Keep your Faith :D

“Don’t let one disappointment or even a series of disappointments convince you to give up and settle where you are.” Joel Osteen
So things are going along great…and then something happens… messes with your routine…Can you Keep Your Faith or does it all go out the window when you get disappointments….they are part of life….we have to learn that they shall pass and if we stay Faithful through them it helps them to pass more quickly…see it depends on how you react in a situation on the out come of it….you know are you gonna create a chain reaction of a bunch of disappointments or are you gonna stand strong in your Faith and Believe and say .. I GOT THIS… You shall not make me Fall….Life is what you make it….might as well make it a good one….all depends on YOU and how you look and handle each situation. You know I have been threw alot in life, I could have EASILY taken everything bitter, but I didn’t, I stayed Strong and carried on, as I knew there was light at the end of the tunnel and one day it would all be OK <3 Image
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Weight Loss Plateau Vs. Fat Loss Plateau

You are making awesome changes in your body when suddenly your progress grinds to a screeching halt. Those pounds of fat that were once falling off effortlessly are now clinging to your body for dear life.

No matter what you do, nothing is working. Maybe it’s been a week, or two, or even a few months, but your weight is not budging. You are ready to shrug your shoulders, throw your hands in the air and say “I quit”.

Why can’t you lose any more weight? What are some solutions to break through your stubborn weight loss plateau?

This article will delve into the dynamics of a weight loss plateau and offer you solutions to overcome it.

Weight Loss Plateau Vs. Fat Loss Plateau

A weight loss plateau is a period of time during which your body weight remains at the same level. So if your weight doesn’t change for 2 weeks, does that mean your results have stalled?

Absolutely not!

The word “weight loss” does not differentiate between changes in fat, muscle, and water.

The primary purpose of tracking your body weight is (1) for accountability and (2) as a proxy for measuring fat loss. When you get on the scale and the reading goes down 1lb, the hope is that 1lb represents pure fat – not muscle, or water.

If you are weighing yourself every day, or multiple times per day, you probably notice your weight can fluctuate substantially by 3-5lb. Most of this weight fluctuation is due to changes in water retention.

For example, if you eat a lot of sodium, carbohydrates, and drink little water, you will retain a ton of water, which will increase your body weight. If on the other you drink plenty of water, moderate carbs and low sodium and you just finished an intense workout where you sweat buckets, your weight can decrease by several pounds. It may seem counterintuitive, but the more water your drink, the less you retain it.

The unpredictability of water retention is one reason to weigh yourself only once per week with Monday Morning Weigh-Ins, unless you find weigh ins every morning keeps you more accountable. Weighing yourself multiple times per day, or at different times each day is the fastest way to kill your confidence and mess with your head.

A weight loss plateau and more specifically a fat loss plateau should be defined as no change in body weight for 3 weeks. The first week may be because of water retention, along with the second week, but the third week indicates that maybe your body is not changing as you have hoped despite your best efforts.

Weight Loss Plateau Facts To Keep In Mind

Before delving into some solutions to help you break your weight loss plateau, here are some important facts that you should know:

1) Weight Loss Plateaus are VERY common

If you do not experience a weight loss plateau as you approach your ideal body weight, consider yourself very, very lucky. Weight loss plateaus are to be expected as you are losing weight. Our bodies are resistant to change. A large chunk of people who reach their ideal weight have experienced as many as 2-3 plateaus lasting several weeks. Remember that if changing our bodies was easy, then everyone would be walking around with a six-pack.

2) The More Weight You Lose, The More Weight Loss SlowsThis comes down to simple mathematics. Take a guy Mike who is at 230lb and loses 1% of his body weight in fat per week (0.5%-1% is a solid pace of fat loss). Mike would then lose roughly 2.3lb of fat per week. Now if he gets down to 200lb, losing 1% of fat is now 2lb, or 15% less than 2.3lb. As Mike’s weight decreases further, less weight would be lost as a percentage of his total bodyweight so weight loss inherently slows down the leaner you become.

3) Losing Weight Becomes Harder The Closer You Get To Your Ideal WeightNot only does the pace of weight loss slow down, but your body will work harder to hold on to your fat stores the leaner you become. We are left with a sobering fact – the ability to lose more fat decreases and it becomes even harder to do so. The most common plateaus I see for guys is first around 20-22% body fat, then around 12% body fat (for those guys looking to break into single digits).

3 Steps To Break Your Weight Loss Plateau

Now that you understand the difference between weight loss plateaus and fat loss plateaus along with the basic dynamics of weight loss, here are some tips to follow to help break through the toughest plateau.

Weight Loss Plateau Step #1: Re-evaluate Your Calorie Intake

As you lose weight, not only does it become harder to lose, but your metabolism decreases. Now don’t go searching for those “how to boost your metabolism” articles – your metabolism is supposed to decrease as you lose weight.

Going back to our friend Mike, if he continues the same workout regimen at 200lb as he did when he weighed 230lb, his metabolism will be roughly 15% lower at 200lb vs. 230lb. Why you ask? He has less body mass, which means his body does not require as much energy to support a smaller frame.

That’s why every 10-15lb you lose (if you have a lot of weight to lose), you can reevaluate your calorie intake to ensure you are eating less calories than you are burning. For more, check out How Many Calories Should You Eat to Lose Weight?

Weight Loss Plateau Step #2: Control the “Calorie Creep”

My estimate is 90% of all weight loss plateaus are related to “calorie creep”, or more generally, eating more calories than you think you are eating. Combined with a decrease in metabolism from weight loss, plateaus are almost a certainty.

The calorie creep can come from mindless eating, eating out at restaurants that serve huge portions, or simply condiments like dressings, spreads, and sauces. Maybe you don’t realize that small 100 calorie bag of “healthy” chips is really 400 calories because there are 4 servings in each bag. Alcohol also goes on the calorie creep list.

The best place to start is to track your food intake if you are not already doing so. There are many great reasons to keep a food journal, so tracking your nutrition intake (even for a few days) is possibly the smartest and most important step you take to improve your nutrition.

Weight Loss Plateau Step #3: Progress Your Body, Don’t Confuse it

While nutrition is likely the culprit for the stall in your weight, making sure you are progressing the intensity of your workouts can only help improve your results.

There is a lot of hype about “muscle confusion” because of a certain exercise program that has sold over 20 million copies through infomercials. In the extreme case, choosing a different workout every time you hit the gym is not confusing your body as much as you think, but it’s definitely curtailing your results. If you want to maintain the results you have, changing things up is awesome, but not if you want to maximize your results in a muscle building, or fat loss program.

Continuity in your exercise program is more important than switching things up all the time. Without continuity, you will not be able to track improvements and make the workouts harder, which is the goal. In my BuiltLean Program, even though I switch up the workouts every couple of weeks, I keep several of the exercises and the structure of the workouts the same so that you can track changes in your strength and fitness levels.

What happens if you still can’t break your weight loss plateau?

The chances are very likely if you follow the preceding 3 steps, you will be able to break your plateau. Again, 90% of the time it’s a matter of not balancing calorie intake with calorie burn. But for those in the 10% category, here are some issues/solutions to consider:

1) Starvation Mode – The opposite of the calorie creep is not eating enough calories to help sustain your body. While your metabolism will not drop if you skip a meal, or even a few, it will drop with chronic calorie deprivation. If you are a 180lb guy eating less than 1,000 calories per day for let’s say 3 weeks, you can bet your bank account your metabolism will take a nose dive. Some studies have shown metabolism can drop by as much as 40-50%. There are a host of other negative issues with extreme starvation diets (lack of proper nutrients being one of them). If you are chronically in starvation mode, it’s advisable to up your calorie intake.

2) Calorie Cycling – If you are in starvation mode, or have just been dieting for more than a month, or two, your metabolism can and will likely slow down above and beyond the range if you were eating more calories. There is no scientific evidence supporting calorie cycling as a superior way to lose fat, but I must mention it given the large number of respected experts who support it. Furthermore, science is not exactly ahead of the curve. Alternating low calorie with high calorie days MAY prevent this starvation response from occurring (i.e. 3 days low, 1 day high).

3) Hormones – There is a large contingent of nutrition experts who describe a stall in fat loss not as a calorie in/out issue, but as a “defect in fat metabolism”. Think about an overfat woman in a developing country who barely eats any food. How can this be? There are several theories, but they most likely have to do with a hormonal imbalance that affects fat loss metabolism along with calorie burn. Hormonal issues related to weight loss are more common with women than men. What’s the solution? Unfortunately, a simple answer is not possible, other than to seek medical assistance and test your hormone levels such as adrenal, testosterone etc.

As you continue on your journey to reach your ideal weight, keep in mind that changing your body is a marathon, not a sprint (See: body change vs. maintenance). The sooner you can appreciate this, the better off you will be in the short and long term.

I hope this was a helpful overview of the true dynamics of weight loss and how tobreak a stubborn weight loss plateau.

Have you ever experienced a weight loss plateau? What did you do to break it?

Sacral Chakra

Sacral Chakra

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Out of the mouth of my Babes

Our house hold is a happy one, we joke around, we laugh, we share our feeling and frustrations with each other, our hopes and dreams.  We have taught our kids to look at the positive things in life, we love them unconditional, and are always there for them when they need us and help others understand as well.  They are also here for us too, there have been many times I have gotten encouraging words from our kids 🙂 Makes my heart melt and helps me to keep on going.  They also make us laugh at the things that comes out of there mouths.  Some things they say also surprises me and helps me to know that they do understand all that I do for them.

Last year Tyler and Travis turned 18, I had picked them up early from school and we were all talking together, a song came on the radio that the words really hit home, I told them that’s how I feel about all of them, that I will fight for them and do anything possible to make life easier for them, I then told them how proud of them I was, they have come such a long way and that I will always be proud of them no matter what.  There was a pause in the conversation and Tyler piped up and said “Mom, I am proud of you too” I was very surprised by this and said oh, he says “ya Mom, I am proud of you for looking after us”.  Talk about heart melt, tears came to my eyes, and I knew right then that they got it, they understand all I do is for them 🙂 They all then said they were proud of me and thanked me for being there Mom.  WOW what an awesome moment.

Then there are things they say that make us laugh so hard, even when I am getting frustrated because they are taking so long to get ready for school.  You see they have no concept of time, so to them goofing around, moving slow, they feel that everyone will just wait, well that’s not how it is and I have tried so hard to make them understand this, you need to be out at the bus stop for 7:30 as the bus comes at 7:40.  I aim for 7:30 that way if they need that extra 10 min they wont miss the bus.

One morning Tyler was being his “joker” self, I was on him to hurry up and get moving as he was going to miss his bus, he kept goofing around and goofing around, well I was getting so frustrated and it was like he has no care in the world, I finally said “Tyler, stop acting so stupid and get ready for school” well he stopped dead, put his hand on his hip look at me and said, “Mom, I am not acting stupid, I am acting sarcastically”.  I had to walk away as I would have started to laugh.  They all never take Barry seriously, which is so funny, everything Barry does is so funny to them. But on one occasion, Barry is always goofing around, I had asked him one morning to empty the garbage as it was over flowing,  his response was, “oh I cant I am too busy”, Travis was getting ready for school, stopped dead in his tracks and said “you know Dad, you should do what your wife says” and kept going, OMG how funny to hear that out of his mouth..LOL.. And nothing goes unsaid, if they think it is important they will tell you, its a good thing I don’t get embarrassed easily as somethings they say to others well should not be said, but they don’t look at it that way.  Here are a few good stories that I have learned, one day at school Tyler pulled his teacher over and said “do you know what my Mom does in the morning”, she said “no Tyler, what does she do” he says “well Mrs. she farts and then says, oh Maggie” LOL (Maggie is our dog).  Like I said good thing I don’t get embarrassed easily.  Another one is that my Dad always goofs around with the kids, he has a artificial tree in his room, well he told the kids that it is a Marijuana plant, I said omg Dad don’t tell them that they will tell people that my Papa grows marijuana.  Well Tyler writes in a journal at school, I love reading it, and one of his pages says ” My Papa has a plant in his bedroom and did you know its a marijuana plant” lol omg, sometimes they don’t get the kidding part when someone is kidding. LOL.

Another thing they really don’t grasp the concept of is money, we have been working hard to get them to understand, but it has been a difficult one.  If they want something they always says “well use the card” (referring to the bank card) they we try to explain that there is no money in the bank, well use the card it will work, they just don’t get the fact that well Daddy has to get his pay cheque first.  So one day I took them grocery shopping, life skills is an important part and we try to teach them the best we can.  I am always on them about no wasting food as well groceries are expensive and there is no need to waste, to me its throwing money out the window.  With taking them grocery shopping it is also teaching them math skills, I get them to help me, like here Travis take this bag and get me 6 apples, or which one is cheaper, look at the price and tell me which on is less money.  So on one grocery shopping trip we got to the cash register and they had helped put the groceries on the belt and then put them back into the cart, keep in mind my kids blurt stuff out  and well are not quiet about it, so after all was tallied up, the lady said that will be 300 and something ( I cant remember the exact amount) well Travis blurts out and I am sure everyone in the whole store heard him “holy shit Mom that’s a lot of money, I will never waste food again” well he sure did learn about the cost of things that day lol.

When they were younger they did a lot more things in public that well they should not have, but then again, they do have autism and sometimes things just come out.  I will never forget this one.  They have just learned they really liked the song from the Group Bloodhound Gang  Discovery channel, well if you ever heard this song you know what its about.  So the kids from our church were to get up and sing Jesus Loves me for the elderly at church, Tyler and Travis were to take part as well, they understood at our church and were really awesome with the kids, my girlfriend and I made sure they were put at the end with in reach of us in case they had some problems.  So all these little darling were getting lined up to sing, they started to sing, it was so cute, well this triggered something in the twins about songs and one of them piped up “have you heard the discovery channel song” I almost died, my girlfriend and I looked at each other and quickly both took one boy and took them out as fast as we could while they starting singing ” you and me baby ain’t nothing but mammals so lets do it like they do it on Discovery channel”

They imitate ANYTHING, they hear, you have to be so careful what you say around them, well my husband is not one who tents to watch what he says, and when they hear something that he says they think its funny and well they imitate him and it goes on for MONTHS. On one occasion Barry stubbed his toe, well anyone who knows my husband knows he is a little rough around the edges, well the air was a bit heated when this happened and for over three months they would imitate Barry, stubbing his toe, and all the foul language that when along with it.  They would literately go to the same place he stubbed his toe, pretend to stub there toe and hop around swearing like there Dad did.  Drove me nuts, Barry tries to be more cautious with his words now.

They have also surprised me with other things as well, I have a very bad back and I am not to be lifting heavy things, but I am I will admit my own worst enemy.  I was doing laundry and I had Tyler and Travis’s laundry basket and was taking it down stairs, Travis came along and noticed me carrying it, stopped put down his game and scolded me, “Mom, you are NOT suppose to be carrying heavy things, here I will take it, next time ask” I was told lol.

I cant even begin to imagine  what my kids say to others, maybe I dont want to know lol, but to them its ok, I do find out somethings and I am glad that it gets a good chuckle out of people. I am very open and honest with the kids, and when I was going for my hysterectomy I explained it all to the kids the best I could so they would understand.  Well, I found out that my youngest son Brandon just had to tell about it, so apparently, he did his research on it, and actually got up in front of the WHOLE class and did a presentation on his Mom getting her baby parts taken out LOL, he did this on the day of my surgery, I was told that one of the E.A.’s had to leave the room so she would not been seen laughing, oh I wish I could have been a fly on the wall that day LOL. From what I was told it was quiet comical.

Like I said I am very open and honest with the kids, so one day I had the question, Mom what is a condom, well they were older and it was time to have “the talk”.  Barry was sleeping on the couch and I was getting the kids ready for bed, so we sat in Tyler and Travis’s room and I started to have “the talk” with them, I got a condom and showed them what it was, Travis blurted out “that would never fit me” one of the many comments made in our conversation.  I told them all I knew about the boy parts and then the question came, “well what about girls” so I answered with “well have you ever heard of a period” Tyler responded with ” yes, always, it give you a happy period” well I could not contain myself anymore and laughed so hard.  “The talk” was quiet comical and they learned alot. So the next morning (Barry not knowing of this talk) one of the kids asked Barry, Dad, have you ever worn a condom, well Barry has a hard time with “the talk” and he went beat red and said “oh no, I have never had sex before”, Tyler stood there and I could see the wheels turning, and he said “umm Dad that’s a lie, we are here” then I told Barry we had “the talk”.  So they did get it, and now Barry will have to answer the questions hahahaha, he told them its law and they cant have sex till they are 21 or married, good grief.

One thing for sure is there is never a dull moment in our house, and our kids ask lots of questions, and we answer them the best we can.  I hope you enjoyed some of our humerus stories and it put a smile on your face, I know I am sitting here laughing with tears streaming down my cheeks as I write this, my kids are a hoot and can put a smile on your face when you are down, they just seem to sense it and know what to do 🙂

Have a wonderful day everyone xo

Education is the Key :)

After we get married,  start our family, and move away, we loose touch with the rest of our family and friends. I know we did. Having kids changes everything. Having children with special needs changes thing even more. Your twice as busy, with appointments, agencies, therapy, etc. The real issue is though, you go to family functions and well, when your child has a behavior and cant help it as he is having a sensory overload, and  that some of your family gives you the look, or tries to give advice. Well you end up leaving, feeling like you don’t belong, sad and mad, Barry and I felt that so many times, so we thought the best was to just quit going. This again is lack of knowledge on others parts, and not wanting to “cause” a scene and hurting others. I use to get very angry and well I will admit I have a mouth and can fly off. And I did not want to do that, so the best was…stay home.. Looking back now I wish I had done things differently, we had children young which was a good plan as I could not have done what I all did now. Now that I am older, I wish I would have explained things more, but you get hurt and think screw it, I am so tired of it . Its sad as then you grow away from family and friends and loose touch.

Don’t let that happen to you. You need to stand up for your children and explain to people why things happen. We thought that by doing this we were saving ourselves from the hurt and sadness for ourselves and our children. We all want to be accepted, and in order for this you need to educate people about the disabilities your children might have. Only then can people learn to accept what its all about. And well if they don’t, oh well then you move on and forget about those who are that way. Life for sure is a journey and its your attitude that helps make that journey special. I know that back then I told my Mom, I am NEVER going to a family function again, it hurts that my own family are giving me the looks and talking about us, I told her I was done with it. Well if I would have just not gotten so angry (I was angry because I was very hurt) and just maybe explained it thinks might have been different, even got up in front of all the family and did a presentation on Autism and helped them to understand, (that family function is big with alot of people). Back then I was to quick to get pissed off…LOL.. its amazing what age can do.

I actually did do a presentation at my church with our ladies group, I talked about the boys and there birth, the struggles and the diagnosis, and answered questions anyone may have had, I was so nervous when I did it BUT I did and it helped alot, it helped people to understand Autism and why the children act or do the things they do.  Also back then I did not know all I know now :).  we were excepted in our church with open arms, people understood and took the time to help and to ask if they did not know.  It was so awesome and I miss that, they were all like family to me 🙂

My advice is to don’t give up and explain to people why this happens, it might save you from feeling that your not welcomed into your family, or that your family does not love or respect you anymore. People do not realize what a look or a few words can do to someone, especially when they deal with a lot in life and are looking for acceptance.

I firmly believe that educating people is the way, so then no one feels hurt and not accepted.
I will tell you that well sometimes confronting does not work, as I did finally write and e-mail to a cousin of mine, with something that had happened at the last family function we went too and the way he acted.   Me having my own physical disabilities I am sometimes up late or cant sleep because of pain. Well I told him what he did and how much that effected my son and made him feel and how it made me feel, I got it all off my chest. His e-mail back to me was so socking and hurtful. He told me that I had the symptoms of an alcoholic, I read this and was like WTH, I started to cry and  so many things when through my mind,  I am on medication, I have chronic pain,  I don’t need alcohol,   I am so NOT an  alcoholic. why would you say that? what gives you the right to judge me this way? I was so upset, hurt and angry with this response I thought  Well I let it go..but  it did bother me, so finally I called my Mom and shared with her my e-mail and his response, She was floored at what was said,  she was so upset and wanted to tear a strip off of this family member, and I know I did nothing wrong but share how I felt, but to be told that I was an Alcoholic when in fact this cousin does not know me that well,  was very very hurtful.  Just because there are others in our family that are, you should NEVER EVER judge someone else by past experiences.  Like really,  this is when I so want to tell someone come walk a mile in my shoes and see what my life is all about.
This is when you need to let it go and move on, if people want to think you are like that then fine. Let them.  You cant let someone elses words take away your happiness, this is when it comes down to ignorance of people who are uneducated. They don’t know you obviously and don’t know the road you walk on. As long as you know who you are and so does God that’s all that matters. Words can hurt yes,  but this is when you need to educate people so they can understand better.  But as I said sometimes it does not work and you just need to let it go and know you stood up for yourself.  This is just one of the few encounters I have had over the years.  I want my children to take part in things, but again I want to protect them as well, I stopped going to the family functions as I was protecting our children from the ignorance of others and to be honest no one really paid them much attention so why should I go?? Just to be there?? To show that I care, I do care but why should I and my children be outcasted because they are not the “perfect” child?? Because they have a temper tantrum because there suffer from sensory overload (I found that out only a few years ago, I knew that was the problem but it takes so long to get assessments done), they can not help who they are, and why they do the things they do.  To Barry and I they are Perfect.  So in all honestly why would I take part in a family function when you get the “LOOK” or you see others looking and talking, when all your worried about is please dont have a melt down, please behave etc.  I have spent so many years trying to get my boys to behave a way that would please others, because of the way I was brought up, and the way one should behave.  I realized long ago that I had to stop doing that, stop trying to make my kids behave because really that is not going to happen.  Once I realized what I was doing just to please others, I myself became more relaxed, and well I thought these are my kids and if you dont like what happens then dont bother, if you wont take to the time to understand then thats your problem not mine.  If you take the time to understand, and educate yourself then sit down with my boys and talk to them, you will learn ALOT.  They are amazing kids, they have a great sense of humor, they are funny, loving, caring, kind, helpful, kids.  Sure they have there moment BUT dont we all, they just dont know how to deal with it the right way, so what, get to know them and I think you will be surprised 🙂  And always forgive the ones who have been rude, or ignorant as they just dont know.  And in order for you to move on you need to forgive that person for there actions.

Remember that Education is the key in order to stop the ridiculed behaviors of others.  And to the people who do not understand, Words are a very powerful tool and when you use them the wrong way it can really hurt, Educate yourself before you speak, and remember that lady in the grocery store who’s child in on the floor having a temper tantrum, well it maybe that he or she has a disability.  So dont judge when you dont know, we take our children with us for a reason, they need to learn and they have a right to be in society just like you do.

Have a wonderful day everyone, and I really hope who ever ready my blogs that I help in some way, and if you are suffering as well, I am her to help you through it. I have been there and I understand.

God Bless xoxo