Our house hold is a happy one, we joke around, we laugh, we share our feeling and frustrations with each other, our hopes and dreams. We have taught our kids to look at the positive things in life, we love them unconditional, and are always there for them when they need us and help others understand as well. They are also here for us too, there have been many times I have gotten encouraging words from our kids 🙂 Makes my heart melt and helps me to keep on going. They also make us laugh at the things that comes out of there mouths. Some things they say also surprises me and helps me to know that they do understand all that I do for them.
Last year Tyler and Travis turned 18, I had picked them up early from school and we were all talking together, a song came on the radio that the words really hit home, I told them that’s how I feel about all of them, that I will fight for them and do anything possible to make life easier for them, I then told them how proud of them I was, they have come such a long way and that I will always be proud of them no matter what. There was a pause in the conversation and Tyler piped up and said “Mom, I am proud of you too” I was very surprised by this and said oh, he says “ya Mom, I am proud of you for looking after us”. Talk about heart melt, tears came to my eyes, and I knew right then that they got it, they understand all I do is for them 🙂 They all then said they were proud of me and thanked me for being there Mom. WOW what an awesome moment.
Then there are things they say that make us laugh so hard, even when I am getting frustrated because they are taking so long to get ready for school. You see they have no concept of time, so to them goofing around, moving slow, they feel that everyone will just wait, well that’s not how it is and I have tried so hard to make them understand this, you need to be out at the bus stop for 7:30 as the bus comes at 7:40. I aim for 7:30 that way if they need that extra 10 min they wont miss the bus.
One morning Tyler was being his “joker” self, I was on him to hurry up and get moving as he was going to miss his bus, he kept goofing around and goofing around, well I was getting so frustrated and it was like he has no care in the world, I finally said “Tyler, stop acting so stupid and get ready for school” well he stopped dead, put his hand on his hip look at me and said, “Mom, I am not acting stupid, I am acting sarcastically”. I had to walk away as I would have started to laugh. They all never take Barry seriously, which is so funny, everything Barry does is so funny to them. But on one occasion, Barry is always goofing around, I had asked him one morning to empty the garbage as it was over flowing, his response was, “oh I cant I am too busy”, Travis was getting ready for school, stopped dead in his tracks and said “you know Dad, you should do what your wife says” and kept going, OMG how funny to hear that out of his mouth..LOL.. And nothing goes unsaid, if they think it is important they will tell you, its a good thing I don’t get embarrassed easily as somethings they say to others well should not be said, but they don’t look at it that way. Here are a few good stories that I have learned, one day at school Tyler pulled his teacher over and said “do you know what my Mom does in the morning”, she said “no Tyler, what does she do” he says “well Mrs. she farts and then says, oh Maggie” LOL (Maggie is our dog). Like I said good thing I don’t get embarrassed easily. Another one is that my Dad always goofs around with the kids, he has a artificial tree in his room, well he told the kids that it is a Marijuana plant, I said omg Dad don’t tell them that they will tell people that my Papa grows marijuana. Well Tyler writes in a journal at school, I love reading it, and one of his pages says ” My Papa has a plant in his bedroom and did you know its a marijuana plant” lol omg, sometimes they don’t get the kidding part when someone is kidding. LOL.
Another thing they really don’t grasp the concept of is money, we have been working hard to get them to understand, but it has been a difficult one. If they want something they always says “well use the card” (referring to the bank card) they we try to explain that there is no money in the bank, well use the card it will work, they just don’t get the fact that well Daddy has to get his pay cheque first. So one day I took them grocery shopping, life skills is an important part and we try to teach them the best we can. I am always on them about no wasting food as well groceries are expensive and there is no need to waste, to me its throwing money out the window. With taking them grocery shopping it is also teaching them math skills, I get them to help me, like here Travis take this bag and get me 6 apples, or which one is cheaper, look at the price and tell me which on is less money. So on one grocery shopping trip we got to the cash register and they had helped put the groceries on the belt and then put them back into the cart, keep in mind my kids blurt stuff out and well are not quiet about it, so after all was tallied up, the lady said that will be 300 and something ( I cant remember the exact amount) well Travis blurts out and I am sure everyone in the whole store heard him “holy shit Mom that’s a lot of money, I will never waste food again” well he sure did learn about the cost of things that day lol.
When they were younger they did a lot more things in public that well they should not have, but then again, they do have autism and sometimes things just come out. I will never forget this one. They have just learned they really liked the song from the Group Bloodhound Gang Discovery channel, well if you ever heard this song you know what its about. So the kids from our church were to get up and sing Jesus Loves me for the elderly at church, Tyler and Travis were to take part as well, they understood at our church and were really awesome with the kids, my girlfriend and I made sure they were put at the end with in reach of us in case they had some problems. So all these little darling were getting lined up to sing, they started to sing, it was so cute, well this triggered something in the twins about songs and one of them piped up “have you heard the discovery channel song” I almost died, my girlfriend and I looked at each other and quickly both took one boy and took them out as fast as we could while they starting singing ” you and me baby ain’t nothing but mammals so lets do it like they do it on Discovery channel”
They imitate ANYTHING, they hear, you have to be so careful what you say around them, well my husband is not one who tents to watch what he says, and when they hear something that he says they think its funny and well they imitate him and it goes on for MONTHS. On one occasion Barry stubbed his toe, well anyone who knows my husband knows he is a little rough around the edges, well the air was a bit heated when this happened and for over three months they would imitate Barry, stubbing his toe, and all the foul language that when along with it. They would literately go to the same place he stubbed his toe, pretend to stub there toe and hop around swearing like there Dad did. Drove me nuts, Barry tries to be more cautious with his words now.
They have also surprised me with other things as well, I have a very bad back and I am not to be lifting heavy things, but I am I will admit my own worst enemy. I was doing laundry and I had Tyler and Travis’s laundry basket and was taking it down stairs, Travis came along and noticed me carrying it, stopped put down his game and scolded me, “Mom, you are NOT suppose to be carrying heavy things, here I will take it, next time ask” I was told lol.
I cant even begin to imagine what my kids say to others, maybe I dont want to know lol, but to them its ok, I do find out somethings and I am glad that it gets a good chuckle out of people. I am very open and honest with the kids, and when I was going for my hysterectomy I explained it all to the kids the best I could so they would understand. Well, I found out that my youngest son Brandon just had to tell about it, so apparently, he did his research on it, and actually got up in front of the WHOLE class and did a presentation on his Mom getting her baby parts taken out LOL, he did this on the day of my surgery, I was told that one of the E.A.’s had to leave the room so she would not been seen laughing, oh I wish I could have been a fly on the wall that day LOL. From what I was told it was quiet comical.
Like I said I am very open and honest with the kids, so one day I had the question, Mom what is a condom, well they were older and it was time to have “the talk”. Barry was sleeping on the couch and I was getting the kids ready for bed, so we sat in Tyler and Travis’s room and I started to have “the talk” with them, I got a condom and showed them what it was, Travis blurted out “that would never fit me” one of the many comments made in our conversation. I told them all I knew about the boy parts and then the question came, “well what about girls” so I answered with “well have you ever heard of a period” Tyler responded with ” yes, always, it give you a happy period” well I could not contain myself anymore and laughed so hard. “The talk” was quiet comical and they learned alot. So the next morning (Barry not knowing of this talk) one of the kids asked Barry, Dad, have you ever worn a condom, well Barry has a hard time with “the talk” and he went beat red and said “oh no, I have never had sex before”, Tyler stood there and I could see the wheels turning, and he said “umm Dad that’s a lie, we are here” then I told Barry we had “the talk”. So they did get it, and now Barry will have to answer the questions hahahaha, he told them its law and they cant have sex till they are 21 or married, good grief.
One thing for sure is there is never a dull moment in our house, and our kids ask lots of questions, and we answer them the best we can. I hope you enjoyed some of our humerus stories and it put a smile on your face, I know I am sitting here laughing with tears streaming down my cheeks as I write this, my kids are a hoot and can put a smile on your face when you are down, they just seem to sense it and know what to do 🙂
Have a wonderful day everyone xo